"Miracle no dey tire Jesus"
I meant it when I said "Focus on God" !!
You want hear gist abi, sit down make I yarn you!
In reference to last week's Post, I'd like to repeat boldly and loudly; ‘Some of you might think I’m single, others might think otherwise, well I’d say focus on God🙏🏾. In His own appointed time, he will make all things right and beautiful!’
This post was meant for the day before Valentine, then you'd understand how only the best of feelings stayed with me throughout the night to Valentine's and the whole of valentines day.
Nevertheless, you're still reading this two days after Valentine and I'm sure you're confused as to why I'm even writing this, after joining my voice with the many ‘singular singles’ here!
Shebi I talk am already now, I decided to Focus more on God and oh indeed "Miracle no dey tire Jesus!!” Just when I thought I'd be doing this Valentines week thing in loneliness, God showed up🤲🏾😇. Huhh!!! Who you dey serve?!🙏🏾🤣
After a very slow yet busy Monday, all I could look forward to was a steaming hot shower, a little bit of self-care and then jumping straight to bed. This vacation had its official purpose yet still, I was determined to make the most out of it by giving myself the utmost attention. I was ready to listen to my body and get all the rest I needed before returning to my "slave-like life" (don't get it twisted but you don't want to know a regular day in my life! y'all 9-5ers just capping, na me dey suffer chaaale!!)
But, I couldn't resist the urge when my sweet one managed to pull some strings to get me a "ticket" to a private beach party hangout. Wooooooo!!!! If it were to be you, soaking in exhaustion, you'd have found new energy to show up and show out because it was pre-valentines night and love is all we needed to sail through the day ahead.
Funny how I forgot how much I was looking forward to my hot shower and found some dress (not bad for a hangout I presume) to fit in because my ride was 2 minutes away. Yes!!!! That’s how fast my decision was to accept the invite!!!
Before I could fix my wig, my ride arrived. Hastily, I rushed out with my scattered wig, glossy lip and some slippers to go. Yeah, I wasn't going to do too much!!! It's not as if I packed for the occasion. 😂
Far away from the noisy beaches lay that side of the sea shore, quiet yet lively, bonfires bright enough to define the shores as the waves quickly rushed to it. Soaking it all in, I started rethinking my decision to join the private hangout and perhaps just find a calm spot by the shore and enjoy the rushed sounds of the waves reminiscing on life!!! I could use some alone time you know, but today wasn't one of those days.
Make I just call say I don arrive before my thoughts send me deep down into the sea. "Strange man in a strange land with strange thoughts" I know my people woooooo, we be aquaphobic!!
I wasn't going to let my comfort in loneliness rob me of the fun I'd be experiencing at the private hangout with my sweet one. She pulled all the strings available to get me on this one so I wasn't going to disappoint her!
Oh yeahhh, SHE!! Sorry to burst your bubble my dear budafly, you figga ago dey just rush out of 'singularity' on a valentines night? I know better than to fall "in love" on a night to an occasion shaaaaa!!!
For me, Fun that night was watching the only couple amongst us be in their element, the other relationship folks stay in long warm hugs as if that was going to be their last night together.
I understand the beachside can be a bit cold and airy but yo, the heat from the bonfire was hot enough to roast marshmallows 5km away. *don't think I'm being jealous, I begg, can y'all take a breakkk, at least??!!!
Fun was watching the waves rush speedily to the shore, sweeping away the dirt from the day's events. At this point I had to quietly step back before the waves go dey carry me dey go my husband house, I no make ready!
Fun was the numerical screams from the group and the loud peals of laughter when a person lost the game. But quickly my thoughts were drawn to the pretty lady screaming her lungs out as she sang out her age. The birthday celebrant hosting the private hangout.
What seemed to scare me was the excitement to embrace getting older; a step into the third floor! That was it for her. Never seen a person so excited to grow! Perhaps, it could be because her model shaped body and baby face could pass as that of a 19-year-old so yeah even though she was ageing, she was proud of it!
Growth scares me thinking of it, but come what may, it's supposed to happen. I mean, We need growth to check improvements, we need growth to check the quality of our life over time. We are supposed to grow to allow the introduction of new beings into this world. And to some, that brings comfort whereas for some of us that scares us to our graves.
Whichever category you may find yourself in, understand that;
The Fear of growth is inevitable in our lives. A very common and understandable feeling, but here's how to escape it;
Manage to understand the root of your fear. Is it the fear of failure? Or inadequacy? The fear of Success? Or the fear of the unknown? Addressing your fears can only be efficient, effective and easier if you're able to understand the basis of your fear.
Embrace failure and see it as a learning opportunity. Just like fear, failure is also inevitable. You need it to appreciate success. Hence, instead of developing a fear of it, see it as a learning experience. A chance to reflect on where things went wrong and work towards improving and being better.
Surround yourself with supportive friends. Overcoming the fear of growth is easier when you're surrounded by people that see potential in you, believe in you and have the best of feelings for you. (Should be reciprocated though) I came to accept and understand it better looking at how intimate this hangout was. Looking at the small circle of friends she had invited to celebrate with her, you could clearly see that she had intentionally invited her ‘support group’. They resonated with her energy and it was evident that they believed in her and she in them.
Life in itself is hard, you cannot waste your years associating with "bad energy"!
Relax and practice self-compassion. Break your goals into manageable steps that can be accomplished one at a time. You only help yourself build some momentum and confidence. Also, remember it's very okay to make mistakes. Be kind, patient and compassionate towards yourself. Don't beat yourself up because of your setbacks. Calm down!!
Even though seeing her excitement scared me into thinking sooner or later, old age is going to catch up with me as well, I took comfort in my own thoughts.
I say make I come gist you squad, now eturn lecture abi?! 👀 Forgive me shaaa, I just can't help it when these little opportunities present themselves. 🤲🏾
Till next time, Stay safe and healthy. 😎
Spread love always.💓
NaBi🦋🖤
Interesting read we are looking forward to your climb to the 3rd floor. Growth is phenomenon that we must all embrace and revel in.
One of the best gifts life gives us is our ability to grow and die eventually
Embracing our fears!!